Thoughts
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A Little More Happiness
In the book, Build the Life You Want by Brooks and Winfrey, they discuss the topic of happiness. They ask this question: “Can you be just a little happier today?” They continued. “Even if a current obstacle doesn’t get removed? Or, your situation does not improve?” “Your relationships may not get better.Still, can you be…
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How to be at Peace in Aloneness
Stephen and Jonathan discuss aloneness and why we need to be okay with ourselves – by ourselves. They also talk about the difference between aloneness as a healthy thing and isolation as an unhealthy thing.
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Collecting Tools
Author note I was asked recently if these blogs included aspects of my life. Here is how I create a blog. I hear an important emotional concept from a person, podcast or book. The concept creates a light bulb moment. (Or, the Holy Spirit points it out and shakes me.) Either way my response is…
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Self Condemnation Resolved
One life goal is to run a child-like soul. A soul that is loaded with peace, rest, and joy. Unfortunately, most of us carry heavy, old condemnation. Here is a biblical insight to challenge lingering condemnation.
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Noticing a Change
God recently showed me an old, confusing inner, battle. Allow me to try to explain it. I was in a conversation that started getting very personal. Suddenly, I had this urge to pull back. As the conversation got deeper my stress level increased. Instead of exploring my stress. An inner, scared part of me whispered.…
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Won’t You Grow With Me?
Dear Spouse,I’d like to share four thoughts with you. Thought #1 If you are inwardly peaceful, then I will enjoy a peaceful home.If, on the other hand you are angry, I will live in fear of your outbursts. If, you are a worrier, my life will be filled with anxiety. If, you are negative, our…
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Where Does it Hurt?
Almost everyone has a pain storage place inside. It’s the place that holds fear, anxiety, and unworthiness. You start your day feeling peaceful. Then, a disappointed, hurting person calls you a loser and a miserable failure. Immediately yourPAIN-STORAGE-PLACE door, flies open. You flood with feelings of anxiousness and failure. Given that most people experience this…
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The Pattern
If there was a pattern to one’s emotional development it would look like this. You start as a curios child with an innocent heart. You laugh, play and explore with great passion. Then, trauma happens and it changes everything.-You learn you will need protection from the pain caused by others. So, you divide yourself. You…
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Loved Well
What if you do a review of your life and this is your conclusion.“I HAVE NEVER BEEN LOVED WELL!” That is a sad statement.And, an honest, deep, struggle-filled statement. SAD- because it carries a longing and an unmet ache. INSIGHTFUL- because now you have verbalized a driving, inner need. ADDITIONALLY- on the inside, you are…
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Listen to Me
Do you want to help me, learn me? If so, you must “listen.” And, I mean listen a lot and talk a little. Listening is the skill of, you getting out of my way.Talking is the skill of me, figuring something out.When I’m talking to you, I am also learning about myself. Here’s the me-talking,…
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Dear Spouse,
Dear Spouse, Can you please help feed my soul? Life is full of struggles. And, I’m tired. I’ve asked God for help and he’s a great source of comfort. But, can you also, please help feed my soul? These are the things that fill me. Nurture me. Comfort me. Celebrate with me. Be pleased with…
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Great Marriages
For a great marriage you need progress in three important areas. 1 . A VISION- Can you visualize your spouse being your best friend? You and your wife playing like two children with a secret. You giggle, hold hands and explore the world together. Over time she becomes the most important person on the planet.…