Thoughts
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Appropriate and Odd
How does it make sense that an individual can be appropriate in one moment and emotionally “odd” in another? (I’m defining “emotionally odd” as- angry, controlling, defensive, anxious, going numb, etc.) David Zailer, author of Death of a Fisherman, was trying to understand why he went emotionally “numb” periodically. He had recently experienced an episode…
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Travel and Party
Growing up, my family was well known in our neighborhood. Everyone knew us as the “travel” and “party” family. After visiting, my buddies went back home and talked about my dad and mom. And, that’s how our reputation spread. Why were we known as the “travel and party” family? My father was famous for his…
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Peace, Rest and Joy
Growing up, I was always trying to belong. I wanted to be loved, enjoyed, and valued. I was looking for acceptance in high school and college. I learned to get lots of approval by helping, serving, and pleasing others. But, helping and pleasing others was only half-fulfilling. So next, I started visiting churches and looking…
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Safe and Loved
An educator was reading some research. The topic was children and learning. She reported: Children learn best when two things are present. How simple and yet so powerful. Look back, growing up, did you feel safe and well loved? Check yourself today. Do you feel safe and well loved inside yourself? Look around. Is your…
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Love and Joy
You were made to run on “love” and outflow “joy.” Love is your fuel source. When walking in love, joy will flow from your heart, soul, and spirit. Landon Saunders dedicated his life to teaching about Jesus and joy. He is 86 years old and has cancer. “Joy is love’s greatest ally. Joy holds no…
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God is Growing You
Remember, God is growing you in the following ways. He is. I spoke to a friend. He shared that he’s been married for 20 years. He said his wife was emotionally, damaged growing up. And, as a result she was unable to bond to him. He asked, “how does a man live a good life…
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Married and Disconnected
WHY WOULD ANYONE LIVE DISCONNECTED IN A GOOD MARRIAGE? Everyone wants more love! If, you were made by love and for love why would you live disconnected? Here is a list of reasons why a spouse, living in a good marriage, would still live disconnected. THE EARLY YEARS -Your parents were poorly attached to each…
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50% Connected?
Are you 50% connected to your spouse? Are you 100% emotionally connected? Or, are you somewhere in between? HERE IS THE CRITERIA FOR MAKING A 50% EMOTIONAL CONNECTION WITH YOUR SPOUSE. 1 . Have a wedding ceremony. 2 . Hold a title. e.g., Husband or Wife 3 . Work outside the home as a provider.…
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Expressing Myself
I had breakfast with a friend. He reminded me that he’d struggled with anger most of his life. Then, he said. I’ve made progress. And, I’m much better at managing my anger. But, I’ve discovered a new problem. I don’t know how to express my emotions. I stumble to find my words. It’s hard to…
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Your Four Missions
There are four missions in life. MISSION NUMBER ONE – Is to pursue God, learn God and love God. You are told to (learn and) love God with all your heart, soul and mind. MISSION NUMBER TWO – Is to learn yourself. (Retrain and) set you mind on things above. (Pray for) eyes to see…
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I Am Not Good Enough!
1 . An angry, attacking friend says, “You’re not good enough!” You THINK. -Only God is really good. So, you RESPOND – “You’re right! I am not good enough” 2 . An angry, attacking friend says, “You’re not very smart!” You THINK.- Only God is very smart. So, you RESPOND – “You’re right! I am…
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Sharing Deep Dialogue
Great relationships are the result of two individuals sharing, deep dialogue. Here are some deep, dialogue, starter statements. ABOUT self- -Something good that happened today is…. -Today, I am grateful for…. -I am hopeful when…. -It makes me happy when….. -A dream I have is…. ABOUT God- -God has blessed me…. -I saw God at…