WHY WOULD ANYONE LIVE DISCONNECTED IN A GOOD MARRIAGE?
Everyone wants more love!
If, you were made by love and for love why would you live disconnected? Here is a list of reasons why a spouse, living in a good marriage, would still live disconnected.
THE EARLY YEARS
-Your parents were poorly attached to each other. That formed your template for relationship attaching.
-And, you spent a lot of time entertaining yourself.
-So, living detached is what you know best.
PAIN AND HURTS
Some people lied and used you.
Others were mean and hateful.
Most of your relationships have been a big disappointment and some have even been painful.
You concluded- living detached is better than the ongoing effort of building a great relationship.
You married for support not connection.
And, logic and fixing is better than feeling and comforting.
By living in lots of aloneness you learned to entertain yourself. Now, you fill your mind with your own entertaining, self absorbing thoughts. Those thoughts consume available time and space. There is never any dreaming about making a better connection to your spouse.
TO EMOTIONALLY CONNECT WITH YOUR SPOUSE
-You need greater self awareness, attaching skills and a small taste of the soul satisfaction that comes from connecting. Finally, you need a vision to live a life of oneness.
Give us eyes to see (ourselves) ears to hear (ourselves) and a heart that hungers for love and oneness.
In Jesus’ name, Amen