Thoughts
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Trauma and the Brain
In a training seminar, psychologist and trauma expert Phillip Manfield made this statement: “Sometimes traumatic events get stuck in working memory.”
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Emotional Distance
What if you grew up in a home where everyone lived emotionally distant?
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Do You like You?
How Do You Know If You Like Yourself?
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Grow Truth
If you love God- Hold on to your 50% truth until it grows. It will grow into a 75% truth. Then into a 90% truth and so on.
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Three Essential Skills
There are three skills necessary for a rich, full life. If you are not strong in these skills, they can be learned and strengthened. They are essential for a satisfying, well-connected life.
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Negative Skills
Growing up is hard. Becoming spiritually and emotionally mature is a lifelong assignment. Perfection is impossible, but growth is the mission—both individually and relationally.
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Alone
Growing up— Dad took care of himself. Mom took care of herself. No one took care of me.
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Boy Thinking vs Man Thinking
You began life as a child. You used childhood thinking—a child’s way of seeing and engaging the world. It was how you survived and got your needs met. But life requires a transition.
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Available, Responsive and Engaging
There are three terms that define a secure attachment. And a secure attachment is another term for a strong relationship connection. The three words are part of Emotionally Focused Therapy. They answer this question. “When I am in distress will you be there for me?” The terms are Accessible, Responsive, Engaged
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Life Chants
Football fans have chants. “Go! Fight! Win!” They loudly declare what they want. Their goals are clear. Their passion is visible. SHOULDN’T WE BE JUST AS CLEAR ABOUT THE DIRECTION OF OUR LIVES?
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Emotional and Relational Growth
Emotions can be confusing. Relationships can be difficult. Always knowing what to do is impossible. Still, there are a few guiding principles many husbands find helpful as they grow.
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What is your Identity?
Do you know who you are?