Thoughts
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Who could I help?
Christians are told to be part of a ministry. They are told to minister to one another. Many quietly whisper, “Me? Be in ministry? Who could I help? What would I say?” This thought rises.“You are perfectly equipped and trained to help people just like you.”This ministry question might also be asked a little differently.…
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Why Must I Change?
After 25 years of marriage a husband made these comments. I have been the same for the last 50 years. I learned to live independent during a hard childhood. The way I have acted has helped me survive my childhood, difficult teenage years, and military service. Being strong and private has served me well. Why…
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Hungry for New Insights
I love working with motivated, emotionally confused, men. Often these men are caught in a relationship crisis and are looking for help. The men I most enjoy are hungry for new insights, strategies, and behaviors. They keep repeating. “Just tell us what to do!” It’s exciting because these men are like Cub Scouts packing for…
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My Issue is Anger
A brother responded to the last post. He said, “my issue is anger.” Now that I have taken ownership of this “odd behavior,” what do I do about it? Here are some suggestions. All glory to God. Amen
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Appropriate and Odd
How does it make sense that an individual can be appropriate in one moment and emotionally “odd” in another? (I’m defining “emotionally odd” as- angry, controlling, defensive, anxious, going numb, etc.) David Zailer, author of Death of a Fisherman, was trying to understand why he went emotionally “numb” periodically. He had recently experienced an episode…
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Travel and Party
Growing up, my family was well known in our neighborhood. Everyone knew us as the “travel” and “party” family. After visiting, my buddies went back home and talked about my dad and mom. And, that’s how our reputation spread. Why were we known as the “travel and party” family? My father was famous for his…
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Peace, Rest and Joy
Growing up, I was always trying to belong. I wanted to be loved, enjoyed, and valued. I was looking for acceptance in high school and college. I learned to get lots of approval by helping, serving, and pleasing others. But, helping and pleasing others was only half-fulfilling. So next, I started visiting churches and looking…
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Safe and Loved
An educator was reading some research. The topic was children and learning. She reported: Children learn best when two things are present. How simple and yet so powerful. Look back, growing up, did you feel safe and well loved? Check yourself today. Do you feel safe and well loved inside yourself? Look around. Is your…
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Love and Joy
You were made to run on “love” and outflow “joy.” Love is your fuel source. When walking in love, joy will flow from your heart, soul, and spirit. Landon Saunders dedicated his life to teaching about Jesus and joy. He is 86 years old and has cancer. “Joy is love’s greatest ally. Joy holds no…
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God is Growing You
Remember, God is growing you in the following ways. He is. I spoke to a friend. He shared that he’s been married for 20 years. He said his wife was emotionally, damaged growing up. And, as a result she was unable to bond to him. He asked, “how does a man live a good life…
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Married and Disconnected
WHY WOULD ANYONE LIVE DISCONNECTED IN A GOOD MARRIAGE? Everyone wants more love! If, you were made by love and for love why would you live disconnected? Here is a list of reasons why a spouse, living in a good marriage, would still live disconnected. THE EARLY YEARS -Your parents were poorly attached to each…
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50% Connected?
Are you 50% connected to your spouse? Are you 100% emotionally connected? Or, are you somewhere in between? HERE IS THE CRITERIA FOR MAKING A 50% EMOTIONAL CONNECTION WITH YOUR SPOUSE. 1 . Have a wedding ceremony. 2 . Hold a title. e.g., Husband or Wife 3 . Work outside the home as a provider.…