Thoughts
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Forgiven Younger You?
“Have you forgiven your younger self?” I’ve had two discussions this week about this topic. One man said. I spoke to my pastor about forgiving myself. He said that was psychological and not biblical. And, I should not think about that any more. A second man said, I started to think about the idea of…
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Your Second Emotional System
To work on emotional growth means you are developing a second emotional system. The FIRST System- (Survival Program) By the time you reach adulthood you have successfully developed one emotional system. That first system is your survival system. Also, called your boy program. Growing up you became a pleaser, fixer or caretaker. (To earn love)…
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The Fight is On!
Up boys! The fight is upon us. Some of us are taking hits. Sadly, we are taking friendly fire. People who are supposed to love and forgive instead are resorting to anger and name-calling. They think wounding your soul is a good thing. Further, they hope, it will awaken and punish you and empower themselves.…
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Transformational Business
What business are we in? Here are a few thoughts. It’a a wonderful fellowship of people working together. Have you noticed the best living is, going through a new life experience, (transformation) and holding Abba’s hand? Hold tight today. Insights, truths and lessons are everywhere. Transformation is happening. You are looking more like our CEO…
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Three Thoughts
Thought #1 I’m listening to some trauma experts. One says, “trauma is where you spin off a part of yourself.” She explained, you “spin off” living open and curious as a boy. After trauma, you stop expressing needs, start living closed and just survive. Thought #2 I’m reading a book written by a man who…
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Show Me
The Holy Spirit has several names. The Spirit has been called comforter, teacher, and guide. The Holy Spirit is also called counselor, helper, and advocate. The Spirit is a gift from the Heavenly Father. He was given to the disciples when Jesus was sacrificed and went back to be with the Heavenly Father. The Holy…
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Simple or Deep Change
Simple change or Deep change? I spoke to a guy once, he’d been in counseling for one month. He was bragging. “Everything is fixed. We are all better. All is so good. We fixed our marriage!” So, I asked. What did you change? His response, “Nothing! I just stopped arguing. I’m keeping more stuff to…
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A New Start
Im trying a new strategy in my marriage. I know the bible says don’t go to bed angry. I must confess I have failed in that area. The bible also says, God’s love is new every morning. So, I am trying to walk in His fresh, new, love every morning. Now, each morning, I wake…
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Great Marriage
What does it take to have a great emotional marriage? Two things. You need two safe, growing, individuals. Then, you need a safe place for those two individuals to work on personal growth–together. Any out of control behavior challenges emotional safety. Your mission is to walk in spiritual wisdom and emotional disciple. In the past…
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A Safe Place
I went to a seminar yesterday. The speaker said, “marriage is were two individuals try to create a safe space and help each other with individual growth”. Meaning – It was a light bulb moment!!! How can the above two things happen if either spouse is stuck (not changing) OR out of control? If, one…
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Finish Strong
Be what God created you to be? Don’t die a wounded, angry, confused, performing, perfectionist! We all saw how well that turned out. We saw how each one of us got stuck and how our stuntedness has hurt us. It has also hurt our spouses/girlfriends and our relationships. Time to start moving forward again. No…
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Kill What’s Killing You
How do you kill the thing that is killing you? The thing that is killing your soul is self-condemnation. And, why would you not be in the habit of self condemnation? Someone once said, “You will be condemned 1,000 times for messing up and failing.” Wow… Now, add to that thought, this rule: First, YOU…