Thoughts
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Three Thoughts
Thought #1 I’m listening to some trauma experts. One says, “trauma is where you spin off a part of yourself.” She explained, you “spin off” living open and curious as a boy. After trauma, you stop expressing needs, start living closed and just survive. Thought #2 I’m reading a book written by a man who…
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Show Me
The Holy Spirit has several names. The Spirit has been called comforter, teacher, and guide. The Holy Spirit is also called counselor, helper, and advocate. The Spirit is a gift from the Heavenly Father. He was given to the disciples when Jesus was sacrificed and went back to be with the Heavenly Father. The Holy…
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Simple or Deep Change
Simple change or Deep change? I spoke to a guy once, he’d been in counseling for one month. He was bragging. “Everything is fixed. We are all better. All is so good. We fixed our marriage!” So, I asked. What did you change? His response, “Nothing! I just stopped arguing. I’m keeping more stuff to…
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A New Start
Im trying a new strategy in my marriage. I know the bible says don’t go to bed angry. I must confess I have failed in that area. The bible also says, God’s love is new every morning. So, I am trying to walk in His fresh, new, love every morning. Now, each morning, I wake…
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Great Marriage
What does it take to have a great emotional marriage? Two things. You need two safe, growing, individuals. Then, you need a safe place for those two individuals to work on personal growth–together. Any out of control behavior challenges emotional safety. Your mission is to walk in spiritual wisdom and emotional disciple. In the past…
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Punched in the Face
“If you want to be successful you must be prepared to be punched in the face multiple times.” -Mike Tyson
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A Safe Place
I went to a seminar yesterday. The speaker said, “marriage is were two individuals try to create a safe space and help each other with individual growth”. Meaning – It was a light bulb moment!!! How can the above two things happen if either spouse is stuck (not changing) OR out of control? If, one…
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Finish Strong
Be what God created you to be? Don’t die a wounded, angry, confused, performing, perfectionist! We all saw how well that turned out. We saw how each one of us got stuck and how our stuntedness has hurt us. It has also hurt our spouses/girlfriends and our relationships. Time to start moving forward again. No…
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Kill What’s Killing You
How do you kill the thing that is killing you? The thing that is killing your soul is self-condemnation. And, why would you not be in the habit of self condemnation? Someone once said, “You will be condemned 1,000 times for messing up and failing.” Wow… Now, add to that thought, this rule: First, YOU…
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No More Self-Condemnation!
No more self-condemnation! Can you speak kind and helpful words over yourself? Can you be encouraging of yourself? Do you forgive yourself easily? Do you ever break out into laughter at your own imperfections? Being kind and supportive of yourself is critical. It is essential to the goal of enjoying your life. We are told to live…
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Knowing Your Emotions
When it comes to emotions, most people only see parts of their own emotional system. They have never mapped out their own emotional system. Meaning, they do not understand how all the parts fit together.
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Leaders are readers
There is a great saying, “Leaders are Readers.” And let me add, men who read, especially about emotional growth, make great leaders.