Equipping Christian Men for Richer Relationships

Tag: Emotions

  • The Goodness of Sadness

    The Goodness of Sadness

    Some individuals found emotions chaotic and painful. The solution was to turn off their emotions. (Detach) So, now when they are supposed to feel sad they feel numb instead.

  • Grumpy or Sage

    Grumpy or Sage

    Do you want to die a grumpy old man or a sage? To become a sage, you must do emotional-spiritual work in the middle years of life.

  • A Letter from a Struggling Wife

    A Letter from a Struggling Wife

    A letter from a struggling wife, pleading with her husband to grow up emotionally.

  • Two Wakeup Calls

    Two Wakeup Calls

    One major life goal should be to run a healthy emotional program. Here are two major griefs that can occur in life. Read them. Then review your own emotional program.

  • Friday Discussion

    Friday Discussion

    Discussion: Addictions are complicated. But there are some similarities. They are often seen as a way to escape emotional pain.

  • 13 Questions for Exploring an Emotional System

    13 Questions for Exploring an Emotional System

    What do we mean when we say, “To have peace, rest and joy you must learn your emotional system.” You may ask, “What makes up an emotional system?” or “Can you give me an overview of the important parts of an emotional system.”

  • Inside and Outside Me

    Inside and Outside Me

    Consider this letter. Does it sound like you?

  • Why do we Fall?

    Why do we Fall?

    Most of us have old emotional areas we battle and struggle to surrender to the spiritual. When you are emotionally hindered, find yourself stuck, or worse–break down, even though you still love Jesus, it’s your emotional program that needs work.

  • Two Emotional Programs

    Two Emotional Programs

    I’ve noticed something from years of counseling. Here’s my observation: Healthy adults have developed a second emotional program. Or, said differently, struggling adults only have one emotional program.

  • Helping Men Navigate between Logic and Emotion

    Helping Men Navigate between Logic and Emotion

    Generally, the majority of men are very comfortable when communicating logic and solving problems, but very uncomfortable and unfamiliar with communicating emotion. This often results in them becoming stunted or stuck in their relational skills, especially in marriage.

  • The Pattern

    The Pattern

    If there was a pattern to one’s emotional development it would look like this. You start as a curios child with an innocent heart. You laugh, play and explore with great passion. Then, trauma happens and it changes everything.-You learn you will need protection from the pain caused by others. So, you divide yourself. You…

  • Loved Well

    Loved Well

    What if you do a review of your life and this is your conclusion.“I HAVE NEVER BEEN LOVED WELL!” That is a sad statement.And, an honest, deep, struggle-filled statement. SAD- because it carries a longing and an unmet ache. INSIGHTFUL- because now you have verbalized a driving, inner need. ADDITIONALLY- on the inside, you are…