How well do you do at grieving with your wife? Life is full of disappointments and losses. It is full of pain and suffering. When she comes to you with her sadness, it’s a great opportunity for you to connect.

Here are two thoughts.

• No one wants to suffer alone. So, when she expresses grief, join her.
• Suffering is a great place for deep connecting and bonding.

Good language offers comfort and connection. Here are ten responses you can use when someone experiences suffering, grief, and/or loss.

• “I’m sorry you’re going through that.”
• “Wow. That’s a lot to carry.”
• “Thank you for sharing that with me.”
• “Keep going. I’m listening.”
• “I can see how that would be overwhelming.”
• “I’m sorry.”
• … “Go on, keep talking.”
• “Oh my, I can see how that would make you feel bad.”
• “That would make me feel bad also.”
• “Thanks for trusting me and telling me these things.

Ask your wife what wording she likes best. Let her teach you the language that is most supportive.

Bible Connection

Finally, all of you should be of one mind. Sympathize with each other. Love each other as brothers and sisters. Be tenderhearted, and keep a humble attitude.

1 Peter 3:8 (NLT)

Prayer

Father, help me grieve with my wife when she is grieving. And, help me be part of the comfort she needs. Help me bless her. Amen.