Equipping Christian Men for Richer Relationships

Patrick Lencioni, best-selling author and speaker, made this statement.

“Vulnerability builds trust.”

I’d like to expand on his statement.

In marriage, if a husband opens up and is vulnerable. (by expressing a flaw.)

And, if his wife responds with kindness, mercy and acceptance.

Then, a foundation of trust starts to develop.

(The opposite is also true. If, a husband is open and vulnerable and in return he receives condemnation and judgement. Then, trust is broken.)

We are imperfect husbands and wives and we are all struggling.

We need a safe place to learn, grow and change. Great marriages are safe places for growth.

If, your wife is ever open and vulnerable please respond first with these statements.

1 . “Thanks for sharing. I know that’s hard.”

2 . “I’m sorry you are going through that.”

3 . “That’s a lot to carry!”

4 . “I’m here for you and I’ll be praying.”


Husbands lead! Make your marriage a safe place. Create an environment of openness, acceptance, and growth.

I am giving you a new commandment, that you love one another; just as I have loved you, that you also love one another. 

John 13:34 (NASB)

Love one another as I have loved (and accepted) you.



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