Thoughts

  • What Detachment Looks Like

    What Detachment Looks Like

    According to attachment theory you have two types of people, attachers and detachers.

  • Why Practice Sadness?

    Why Practice Sadness?

    Men hate weakness, sadness, and feeling lost. So when someone says you need to practice sadness. There’s one common response, “No way!”

  • Stuck in Anger

    Stuck in Anger

    A question was asked, “If I am stuck in anger, how do I get unstuck?” There are two overlapping answers. There is a spiritual pathway and an emotional one that work together. This answer highlights components of the emotional pathway.

  • Why Be Kind?

    Why Be Kind?

    After listening to thousands of people tell their stories I have arrived at one simple conclusion.

  • Laughter

    Laughter

    Being positive brings smiles and laughter. I love laughing. That includes jokes, cutting-up, being silly, and just playing together. It means finding moments of joy in life.

  • Failing Forward: Turning Setbacks into Hopeful Growth Steps

    Failing Forward: Turning Setbacks into Hopeful Growth Steps

    In this episode, we dive into the emotional impact of failure. We both express how deeply we hate failing, describing how it triggers feelings of rejection, isolation, and shame. We explore the importance of reframing failure, emphasizing that God’s love still remains constant despite our setbacks.

  • When She Doesn’t Seem to Care

    When She Doesn’t Seem to Care

    Who will you be when your needs are not met? How will you handle life’s disappointments?

  • Forgive Them

    Forgive Them

    My friend’s daughter was visiting from college. They were having lunch. During the meal she made this request. “Dad, one day I want you to apologize to me.”

  • Talking Helps

    Talking Helps

    There was a meeting. At that meeting a gentleman started talking about his emotions. He said, “I talk for my mental health.”

  • Healthy Men Do

    Healthy Men Do

    God’s men are growth oriented. They strive for self awareness, own their blind spots, and pray for wisdom. They spend a lifetime working on spiritual and emotional growth.

  • Indicators of Change

    Indicators of Change

    A wife will report. My husband says he’s changing. But how do I know if he really is working on growth and change?

  • Talk to Her

    Talk to Her

    A wife calmly pleads with her husband, “Talk to me. Please talk to me.”