A wife calmly pleads with her husband, “Talk to me. Please talk to me.”
He responds, “What do you want me to say?”
She’s looks confused but continues, “When we dated you could talk for hours.”
He shakes his head. “That was dating. This is real life.”
She puts her face in her hands and weeps. “I’m so lonely in this marriage.”
He concludes, “If that’s the way you want to feel; that’s your problem.”
What is conveyed when a husband dialogues with his wife?
- She is seen and heard. Talking sends the message you are valued. It signals he desires for her input. We are a team. Your ideas are important. We are equals.
- She gets to try out new ideas on him. His feedback enhances her thinking. His support may allow her to take a risk and move forward.
- They get to laugh together. Some of his ideas are dumb. And they laugh. Some of her ideas are dumb. And they laugh some more.
- Talking conveys we are journey mates. And we can co-Captain our ship (relationship) through difficult storms.
- Some shared thinking and talking can positively change the long term direction of their lives. Dialogue helps them both grow. Talking bonds a couple together. And bonding protects their union.
Prayer
Father, prayer is me just talking to you. Thank you for listening to me 24 hours a day. Your Bible speaks to me. And sometimes my spirit hears your Holy Spirit whisper. Thank you and Amen.
Bible
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her
In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.