The last several posts have been about sadness. Why? Because many emotionally underdeveloped men have detached from their sadness.

They do everything they can to avoid it. These men try to live a rich full life with two of the three essential systems: logic and behavior. Any emotions connected to sadness must be avoided.

If a husband is living with buried sadness, how does that impact his relationships? Here are some comments to consider.

• One wife responded by saying, if I tell my husband anything that has to do with sadness, he immediately gets irritated.
• He stays engaged if we talk about topics he enjoys. But he has no patience for emotional conversations.
• One spouse wondered, How will my spouse ever be able to connect with me, the children, or our friends if the topic of sadness upsets him?
• He often says, “Just get over it,” or, “It doesn’t matter,” and “Don‘t cry over spilt milk.”
• My husband doesn’t see that disconnecting from old sadness is hindering our conversations today.
• I want us to connect during the easy times and through the big, difficult, hard times also.
• I want my spouse to walk alongside me as I explore my emotions.
• When I asked him about his avoidance of my sadness, he responded, “What do you want me to do, ball up in the corner and weep for three days?”

Close

If you experienced too much pain and sadness as a child, you may be trying to live a rich, full life with dampened emotions.

Prayer

Father, please be Lord of every sad place within me. I give those places to you for healing and freedom. Amen.

Bible

“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” – Matthew 11:28 NIV