In marriage, you will be asked to deal with your wife’s emotional pain. She will periodically vent out hurt, letdowns, and disappointments.

That’s good news. She feels safe enough to share her pain with you. The problem is that sometimes her pain will stir up fear and hurt inside you. So how do you handle these difficult moments?

You pray

Heavenly Father, your daughter is in pain. Are you hearing this? She’s telling me about how life has let her down. She’s struggling with disappointment and how others have not been there for her. And that sometimes includes me. Father, please bless your daughter. You are the one that heals. You heal hearts, minds, and souls. Please bless your daughter. She needs you now.

Help me stay at rest. This dialogue (full of pain, disappointment, and letdowns) is not for my ear. You are the creator. You are the savior. You are the healer. This dialogue is for your ears.

I will gladly stand in and be your representative, but I will not get confused and think I’m in charge of healing your daughter. My mission is to offer comfort. Please help me stay calm so that I might offer her a place of rest and comfort.

You are great and I’m small. But I’m delighted that I get this assignment to bless your daughter. Please strengthen me for the work of providing a place of rest and hope. In the mighty name of Jesus, I ask. Amen.

Bible Connection

Confess your faults to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The effective, fervent prayer of a righteous man accomplishes much. – James 5:16 (MEV)