A brother responded to the last post. He said, “my issue is anger.” Now that I have taken ownership of this “odd behavior,” what do I do about it?
Here are some suggestions.
- Recognize God is in the transformation business. Ask him to move you from old-stuck-anger to forgiveness.
- Determine to make this old weakness the place of new growth.
- Remember, anger is just badly expressed disappointment.
- Ask yourself, “when I am disappointed must I lose control of myself?”
- Set out to become an expert on the topic of anger.
- Over the next year, read 4 books on anger. (Audio books also count.) And, listen to podcasts on anger.
- Make one person your accountability partner. Confess every time you lose control. Do weekly check-ins.
- Venting anger is your “boy part” responding. Pressing in and holding disappointment is your “adult part” responding. Practice more adult responses.
- When you feel disappointment rising repeat, “I forgive you as I forgive myself.”
- Pray for wisdom daily and journal through any disappointments.
All glory to God. Amen