What are statements and questions that a husband might hear? And what do they mean?

Here are some statements you may hear and what she is saying:

You never listen to me.

When I am talking, I am the tour guide. Follow me and please keep up. I will lead the conversation. I may sound lost. But it’s only because I’m working through some confusing feelings. Don’t get discouraged. Rather be encouraging and affirming.

We never talk.

We are stuck. Our relationship is not deepening. I want to grow with you. Talking means sharing, growing, and learning. Logic and fixing problems are survival talk. Why do you only engage in simple, shallow conversations?

I want to know your heart.

The heart is the place of our greatest relationship love. The heart houses our love feelings, wants, and needs. What makes you feel loved? And I want you to know what makes me feel loved.

I want you to be my soulmate.

I have deep emotional struggles I’d like to share with you. I want us to explore fears and doubts together. Let’s form a club with only two members, you and me. The purpose being sacred sharing.

You just don’t get it, do you?

You are supposed to be on a life-growth mission. There are three parts. They include spiritual, emotional, and physical. Your growth in these areas helps motivate me. Please never stop growing.

Homework

Ask your wife to build on and improve the above thoughts.

Prayer

Father, help me understand more deeply. Help me hear on the deeper, emotionally level of the soul. Please give me wisdom. Amen.

Bible Connection

Read the story of the woman at the well. See how Jesus listened at the soul level.

John 4:1-42