Susan Greene, author, came up with the concept of Loving Detachment. It is also the title of her book Loving Detachment on Lulu.com. She reported living with a husband who had an alcoholic addiction. And, she helps others who find themselves living with an addicted spouse.

In this blog we often discuss attachment and the importance of attaching and bonding in a marriage. However, we also realize some marriages are very, very difficult.

Susan Greene attended a support group. Here is what they taught her.

There are three C’s that are true of an addiction:

• You didn’t Cause it.
• You can’t Control it.
• And, you Can’t fix it.

Susan Greene suggests that there are times one must practice loving detachment to survive in a difficult relationship.

We are designed to be great lovers. So, that is what we do, we love. But if someone is toxic, threatening, or addicted, we love them–but we may need to practice the skill of loving detachment.

Addiction is not my area of expertise. If this is you, you will need to research the topic more.

Here are a few of my thoughts:

• Accept that this is how the individual chooses to live.
• CoExisting takes priority over connecting and bonding.
• Access lots of resources, group support, and mentoring.

Bible Connection

The Heavenly Father wants you to be so full of his deep, abiding love such that you can…
Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you. See Matthew 5:44.

Prayer

Father, I need to lift up someone. I love you. I have quirks and bad habits but this person has issues at the level of addictions. I know you love him/her. I need your vision, strength, and assertive love. I know Jesus died for all us sinners. Give me strength and wisdom. Amen.

IMPORTANT: Please seek professional assistance if you are ever in any danger.