What if a young, son saw his mother struggling? Maybe, dad worked a lot, traveled regularly, or just left the family. And, mom daily complained about her heavy, sad life and how she can’t get everything done.
Her son hears her sadness and comes up with a plan. He decides not be a burden to mom. He will keep all his own struggles and sadness (his emotions) to himself. Further, to help mom’s sad life he will do lots of chores.
Then, that son grows up and marries.
His wife starts to talk to him about her sadness and disappointments. He decides. “I will not be a burden to my wife.” So, he continues his boyhood plan. He thinks. “Just keep my emotions to myself. And, do extra chores to help ease her sad life.
His Plan
Don’t burden my struggling wife.
Keep all difficult emotions to myself.
Do extra chores to help ease her painful life.
Her View
My husband is open, kind and friendly in social settings. At home he emotionally withholds himself from me. He must not love me.
And, he’d much rather stay busy doing tasks than help me with my emotional struggles.
And God will wipe away every tear from their eyes; there shall be no more death, nor sorrow, nor crying. There shall be no more pain, for the former things have passed away.”
Then He who sat on the throne said, “Behold, I make all things new.” And He said to me, “Write, for these words are true and faithful.”
And He said to me, “It is done! I am the Alpha and the Omega, the Beginning and the End. I will give of the fountain of the water of life freely to him who thirsts.
Revelation 21:4-6 (NKJV)
In Christ, old things pass away; old things become new.
Prayer
Father, help myself and my wife. Being emotionally and spiritually healthy is hard. Amen