A lonely hurting wife cries out.

Dear Husband,

You asked me to marry you seven years ago. I agreed. Now, is the time to be deepening our relationship. But while I’m struggling and turn to you, you look lost.

Why?
I’ve concluded it’s because you don’t know how to make an emotional connection.

Why?
Because you zone out instead of engaging me. Meaning you don’t want to discuss our differences.
And you’d rather just ignore our conflicts.

Why?
You hear emotional intensity, and you run. You aren’t able to engage with me when I’m struggling.

Why?
Because you seem disconnected from your emotional self.

Why?
Because in your world emotions equal pain. I think you shut down your emotions long ago.

It appears you don’t like your own uncomfortable feelings and your surely don’t want to hear mine. Today I am realizing you can’t connect with me. My heart is heavy. My soul grieves. And my joy is nowhere to be found.

Why?
Because unless growth happens, this is as good as this marriage will ever get.

Today is a sad day. I am trapped and destined to live with shallow dialogues in a shallow marriage.

Dear Husband, please wake up. Let this be just a bad dream. I want a warm, close, connected relationship with you.

Prayer

Father, thank you for always being there. I know I can always talk to you. Life is hard and relationships are hard. Thank you that I can turn to you for comfort. Please give myself and my spouse wisdom. In Jesus‘ name. Amen.

Bible

For this reason, a man is to leave his father and his mother and lovingly hold to his wife, since the two have become joined as one flesh. – Ephesians 5:31 (Passion)