A Disconnected Husband Shares Eight Thoughts

Thought #1

I’ve never been good at deep, emotional conversations. But I’m very good at simple, surface ones.

Thought #2

I know – I don’t know how to participate in emotional connection. Looking back, I realize—I was never taught.

Thought #3

I’ve struggled to understand myself or others. When a conversation deepens, I feel lost, confused, and easily irritated.

Thought #4

As a child, I wanted to talk and be heard. But I learned to keep my thoughts to myself. Now, I rarely initiate emotional conversations.

Thought #5

When emotions surface, my mind races in ten different directions.

Thought #6

I look like a regular guy. But inside, I often feel fearful and vulnerable.

Thought #7

I hate failure and criticism. One small negative critique can send me spiraling.

Thought #8

No one taught me how to emotionally connect. For years, I assumed something was wrong with me.

Close:

Today I see that playing dumb and running away doesn’t protect me.
It only hurts me—and the people I love.

Prayer:

Father, teach me how to connect.
Soften my heart. Give me ears to hear and eyes to see. Lead me toward oneness. Amen.

Scripture:

“I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you.” Ezek. 36:26 NIV