Author: Stephen Cervantes
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Sharing the Work of Growth
Often in marriage one spouse is learning, gaining insights, and excited to be on a Growth Mission. At the same time their spouse may have less interest in engaging in emotional growth.
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Two Emotional Programs
I’ve noticed something from years of counseling. Here’s my observation: Healthy adults have developed a second emotional program. Or, said differently, struggling adults only have one emotional program.
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Insights into Connecting Well
Connecting well is hard work. Many of us were poorly trained in connecting. It takes time, interest, and self control to connect well. Here are some insights that might help in building a better connection.
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It’s Easy to Talk to Someone Who…
Have you ever noticed how easy it is to talk to someone who Is neutral, accepting, admits they also struggle…
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Change Takes Work
We are still researching cures for these issues. If you know how to cure these weaknesses please share that information. Everyone knows change is hard. And, these habits are hard to break. Poor Habits Change is hard. People seldom change because someone asked them to change. A person can change once he/she sees how a…
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It’s Not your Pride
If you go to a spiritual brother in humility and confess. Saying, “I’m struggling!”And, that brother quickly and assertively responds, “It’s your pride.” You might want to seek advice elsewhere. Why? Because many church men want to sound wise. They want to appear insightful. And, they are not sure what else to say. So, they…
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I Want You to Know Me
I’ve often heard this relationship statement. “I want you to know me.” My assumption was everyone knew what that meant. Then, I remembered two stories: A 16-year-old daughter was sitting at the dinner table and said to her dad, “You’re so private. You’re a mystery. I don’t feel like I know you. I want to…
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He Sets us Free
Stephen shares an example of what a genuine growth mindset looks like.
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My Mission
I went to Abilene Christian University to learn God’s EMOTIONAL ROADMAP for living. God is the God of order. He gave us the bible, Jesus and the Holy Spirit. And, he set up the church. The church teaches the does and don’ts of Spiritual living. A spiritual roadmap covers living spiritually and preparation for an…
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Stay Present
It was a cold day. The last day of the trip. Four men sat around the fire, reflecting on the week-long time they had away from it all. The conversation turned to going home, back to their wives. Caleb asked, “Why is it so difficult to stay present when I’m talking with my wife?” It…
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Spiritual and Emotional Program
Strive to bring your emotional program in sync with your spiritual one. And, see the promises of Jesus that you can walk daily in peace, rest, and joy.
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Three Missions
You need to be working on Three Missions. MISSION NUMBER ONE-A Recovery Mission. Everyone needs to be working in their weak area. Areas of work include the following, anger, lust, overeating, spending too much, jealousy, negativity, laziness, self centeredness, being a loner, under talking, etc. Recovery is where you identify, admit and stabilize your issue.…