I’m tired of needing everyone’s approval. It’s time to stop playing the role of Approval Junkie.

The Role—Approval Junkie:

I love tasks and accomplishing. I love recognition, attention, and praise. When you smile and affirm me, I feel momentary acceptance.

What’s behind the Role?

Two things live there:

• a Fear of Being Inadequate
• and a practiced Skill of Self-Hatred

That’s why

I don’t like quiet, stillness, or being alone. Because in the silence, the noise begins. Judgment. Negative self-talk. The shouting of shame.

And behind The Fear and Bad Skill

A deeper wound

As a child, I never felt connected and I was under-loved.

So I came to this conclusion:

I am not good. No one really wants me. And, I don’t even want me.

The best I can do is play a role, run from fear and practice bad skills.

Jesus offers something different.

Prayer:

Jesus, please heal me. Make me new. Help me stop the lies, play no roles, and release the bad skills that keep me stuck. Amen.

Today—Repeat:

I am saved, made new, and free in Christ. Abba wants me. Jesus likes walking with me. The Holy Spirit comforts me and offers me rest.
Today, I receive it.

Scripture

“If anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!”
—2 Corinthians 5:17 (NIV)