In this discussion, dad works excessively and most of their sons’ interactions happen with mom.

What if growing up, mom had two responses: If you fell down, her first response was to comfort and nurture you. She would say, “I’m so sorry.” But other times when you fell, she would ignore you. Or say, “Stop whining. It’s nothing. Get over it!” Those opposite responses would produce anxiety in you.

Or what if your mother did not respect your boundaries? She discussed her adult problems with you and even came to you whenever she needed a hug. That would also produce confusion and anxiety in you.

This son would grow up and probably feel:

• Unloved
• Unable to trust others
• Emotionally confused
• Internally panicked
• Clingy and needy
• Anxious and confused about life and people

The above list is material by Adam Young, LCSW, an expert on Anxious Attachment. According to Young, there are three attachment styles: Secure, Avoidant, and Anxious.

Close

In marriage, this individual would struggle with trust, bonding, and closeness for all the reasons listed above. The good news is, we serve a God who transforms hearts, minds, and fears.

Prayer

Father, please be Lord of my fears. I submit them to you. I often feel like a confused child living in an adult world. Please bless me with wisdom and insight. Help me grow in maturity and insight, and do it all to the glory and honor of your kingdom. Amen.

Bible Connection

Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and petition with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. – Philippians 4:6-7 (LSB)

And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may approve what the will of God is, that which is good and pleasing and perfect. – Romans 12:2 (LSB)