These thoughts are from Dr. Jennifer Freyd’s book, Betrayal Trauma-The logic of forgetting childhood abuse.*

Dr. Freyd states blocking some information is a natural reaction. And it may be necessary for survival. It is a natural human response to not remember or to not know some past abuse. Dr. Freyd used this term to describe what she was exploring, Betrayal Blindness.

Children need their parents for survival. Children of abuse often do not have the opportunity to escape. So, it becomes more advantageous to be blind to that betrayal and abuse. If a boy is abused by someone who is supposed to protect him how does he process the event? He can’t. So, his brain helps him forget.

The above thoughts add considerable insight into a pattern that’s been observed. Here is my question, Why are so many men unaware of their own story? I think the above information answers that question. For clarification purposes I’m going to call this Trauma Blindness. I believe this will be helpful language for men who are learning their childhood foundation.

Prayer

Father, help me grieve old hurts and pain. Help me move beyond it. I want peace, rest, and joy. Help heal my memory and anything that hinders my rest. Thank you. Amen.

Bible Connection

Speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves…defend the rights of the poor and needy. – Proverbs 31:8-9 (NIV).

*The reference (and link) to Dr. Jennifer Freyd and her book should not be taken as an endorsement and is not sponsored. I frequently read books and other materials from colleagues to gain deeper insight.