You need to be working on Three Missions.
MISSION NUMBER ONE-A Recovery Mission.
Everyone needs to be working in their weak area. Areas of work include the following, anger, lust, overeating, spending too much, jealousy, negativity, laziness, self centeredness, being a loner, under talking, etc. Recovery is where you identify, admit and stabilize your issue.
MISSION NUMBER TWO-A Spiritual Growth Mission.
This is where you learn new, better ways. You are shown a bigger picture. Taught higher truths. You are shown a role model. A perfect, sacrificial life is outlined. And, you learn about grace, mercy and forgiveness. This is where growth in Father, Son and Holy Spirit occurs.
MISSION NUMBER THREE-An Emotional Growth Mission.
This is the place where your weak area (see above) intersects with your spiritual growth mission. Remember, you established your emotional program before you studied the teaching of Jesus. So, on this mission you need to seek out false beliefs, poor early training, bad habits and negative coping skills. Your emotional program can severely hinder your spiritual growth. So, remember to do emotional growth work.
Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.Romans 12:2 (NIV)
Father, please renew my mind, my heart and my soul. Help me bring my whole being into harmony and submission to you. Amen