Thoughts
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Oneness is Hard-Challenge Accepted!
These comments were made by different men. They are all husbands. When expressed together they help understand the topic of emotional disconnection. Husband #1I know, I am the problem in our marriage. Husband #2I’ve just learned and am admitting this for the first time. I have been a shallow man my whole life. Husband #3Not…
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A New Way of Thinking
Does God want “ME”? Or, does he want me only if I change and become someone else? I’ve heard: I’ve read and heard these things all my life. It sounds like God doesn’t want “ME”. He just wants to look down and see millions of Jesus-look-a-likes walking around. “Be Jesus or be a loser!” The…
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A New Beginning
Point #1 Trauma training says, “It’s not what happened to you that is the problem. You already survived the trauma. It’s the TAKE-AWAY from your early traumas. Point #2 As a child you didn’t understand life or mature thinking. You used simple, child thinking. “Mom and Dad are good. Others are good. I am bad.”…
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Helping Men Navigate between Logic and Emotion
Generally, the majority of men are very comfortable when communicating logic and solving problems, but very uncomfortable and unfamiliar with communicating emotion. This often results in them becoming stunted or stuck in their relational skills, especially in marriage.
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Old Things Passed Away
I was wondering what happens in a healthy mind? Here is a collection of things you might experience. Verse Therefore if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creature; the old things passed away; behold, new things have come. 2 Cor 5:17 NASB May God bless you as your mind, heart and soul are being transformed. Amen
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Peace, Rest, and Joy
Every morning you wake up. Work. Serve. Share. Pray. Learn. Bless. And, Rest.Then, you go to bed. And, repeat the pattern the next day. Those are regular daily activities. But, what is the SOUL PROGRAM that drives all that activity? Your SOUL PROGRAM is the storage place of all your life experiences and beliefs. Remember,…
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Growing in Agency
Albert Bandura, Psychologist is credited with developing this term, “Human Agency.” (Or, “Agency” for short.) Agency includes how you act, think and interact with life. There are four parts to the definition of agency: Pay special attention to number four. Why am I writing about Agency? Because, you have one life to live. Running a…
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What is Your Choice Today?
On your Christian walk you will have many decisions. But, there is one major emotional-spiritual decision: You will either wrap yourself in God’s love and find rest. Or, you will decide to “perform” to earn your love. If you pick a performing lifestyle, your life will have some thrills but mostly you will be exhausted…
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Like Water Off a Ducks Back
Our hearts are made for love, by love, and to love. The fuel of our heart is love. What is the opposite of love? Rejection. So, we love, love and we hate rejection.We love being chosen. We hate being excluded. Criticism is verbal rejection. Criticism triggers rejection and pain: “You’re so stupid! You’re just a…
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Four Scary Things that Live Inside My Head
I’ve heard this statement several times. “I’m good! As long as I can just stay out of my own head.” So, I asked myself. What’s in his head? Here are four possible scary answers. These four topics play an unending, inner, verbal, loop of misery. And, that loop lives night and day in my head.…
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Three Years
When a man is in recovery he needs one thought: “One day at a time.” But when a man starts an emotional growth mission he needs this thought: “Three years.” This is what his emotional growth journey looks like: YEAR ONE YEAR TWO YEAR THREE Biblical Concepts Submit yourselves. Take the narrow path. Seek and…
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Her Emotional Struggle
A wife tells her husband she is feeling lonely. She wants more closeness and emotional connection. She continues, I want us to grow deeper in our relationship. I want a deep, emotional connection with you. Her husband, inwardly, snickers. Outwardly he says, “I’ll try.” He changes for a few days. Then, he falls back into…