Thoughts
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Standing on Holy Ground
As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.
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Remember the Big Picture
How do you handle temptation? What do you do when the negative voices in your head try to define you? Or when old, pleasurable, sinful moments call you back? Remembering the big picture helps quiet all the inner chatter and makes temptation look petty.
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Connecting Cues
A wife will often try to teach her husband about better connecting.
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We Fall to the Level of our Training
When a man is denied, ignored, let-down, or disappointed, you often see poor emotional training on display. When a man is intensely disappointed, he might fall to the “the level of his (childhood) training.”
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People Don’t Resist Change
People don’t resist change, they resist loss. Stephen talks about how this translates to our emotional growth.
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A Noticeable Transformation
Learning to practice contentment and recognize the truth that God loves you is transforming.
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Unwritten Rules
Lots of struggling parents have rules to help the family survive. This is not about blaming anyone. Rather, it’s a chance for an individual to review the rules of their home when they were a child.
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Emotional Conversation
Your wife wants you to work on emotional growth. At first you resist, as we all do. We love staying the same. Then you embrace the mission of emotional growth. But what are the words, skills, and areas that define emotional growth?
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A Tale of Two Dialogues
This man was raised by shallow-dialogue parents. Because of this, he thinks everyone is from a shallow-dialogue family. Further, he thinks of himself as using normal, regular, healthy language. Additionally, he sees himself as a happy, normal, regular-talking guy.
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Recovery and Discovery
The topic of recovery has always been a little confusing. Everyone has their own understanding of the word. But, most agree recovery takes a long time. I asked a recovering friend this question. “What happens after recovery? Or, do you just die in recovery?” He said, No. You move to DISCOVERY.
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Grumpy or Sage
Do you want to die a grumpy old man or a sage? To become a sage, you must do emotional-spiritual work in the middle years of life.
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Meaningful Conversation
We are two different people. Yes, we have negotiated lots of differences. However, we still have some hot spot differences that need MEANINGFUL conversation.