Equipping Christian Men for Richer Relationships

A 38 year old husband made this comment.

“I gained a new insight today. Sex is not love.”

(Don’t you love it when a man has an “aha” moment.)

This is both a wonderful moment of awakening and a terribly, sad moment.

Wonderful. Because it opens up his thinking to a new, much larger definition of love.

Sad. Because, he’s been married and oblivious to the true meaning of love.

Wonderful. Because at age 16 he concluded, “Sex equals love” BUT, at age 38 he awakens to conclude, “Sex is a small part of a much bigger love story.”

Sad. Because growing up he never saw the beauty of an emotionally connected, sacrificial, love story.

Sad. Because his old love story was really just a using, pleasure-seeking, sex story.

Sad. Because a wife living with this husband was probably not getting her emotional needs met.

Wonderful. Because the first time you learn about “thinking errors” you become hopeful. Your next thought is, I must change my thinking.

Wonderful. Because he can now start his emotional growth mission. He can learn and practice the good stuff, including affection, affirmation, acceptance, and encouragement.

Beloved, let’s love one another; for love is from God, and everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. The one who does not love does not know God, because God is love.

1 John 4:7-8 (NASB)

God is love.


God bless you and me on our mission to live a wonder-filled love story. Amen


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