Marriages can be lived on several different levels. They vary from “very attached” to “very detached.” Please use this material for discussion purposes. Remember, the purpose of these blog posts is to foster conversations that moves us towards greater Oneness.

Four marriage levels

A “Oneness” Couple

We move towards each other. Share our hurts, hopes, and dreams. We laugh, cry, and enjoy being together. We work, help others, and volunteer to make the world better. We love Jesus and are best friends.

A “Roommate” Couple

We plan meals together. We are courteous. We keep each other informed about our coming and leaving. We go see movies together. We freely, talk and share. We are cordial, social, and enjoy each other. We love Jesus but there is a wall that exists that stops us from getting closer.

A “CoExisting” Couple

We get along pretty well. Maybe, one of us walks on eggshells. Mood or other issues may exist. One spouse may be angry, stressed, or depressed. Those issues don’t get resolved so we live with some separation. One spouse might try to keep the other calm. Often, one spouse is more dominant and the other is more passive. And, we are Christians.

The “Very Independent” Couple

We have separate finances, friendships, and vacations. He has his groups and she has hers. We live separate lives but we live together under the same roof. We have little in common but that does not matter. And, Jesus loves us too.

Oneness is a very challenging biblical model. Please be gracious if you are not there yet. We are all working in that direction. God bless us all.

Bible Connection

“That’s why a man will leave his own father and mother. He marries a woman, and the two of them become like one person.” – Genesis 2:24 (CEV)

Prayer

Father, two unique individuals functioning as one is a very lofty goal. And, yet we aspire to live as you have designed us. Help me and help us. I want your best for our marriage. Thank you. Amen.