Here are some growth thoughts. They are based on ideas from Mel Robbins book, The Let Them Theory.*

You may have a problem. And you may be unaware of it. You are giving your power away to others. Mel Robbins says you are trying to control people. Meaning you’re trying to control the thoughts, opinions, and actions of others.

My mind raced forward. I thought of friends. What do I want? The answer being love, approval, support, encouragement, fun, laughter, and for people to sing and bring me gifts on my birthday.

I think Mel Robbins is saying if you want anything from others you’re giving away your power and control. My first thought was NO! After thinking about it, my second response was agreement.

What happens if you’re in a relationship and don’t get what you want? You get angry, throw fits, use the silent treatment, walk away, and slam the door. Why? We think if we control ourselves and act loving, the other individual can’t help herself. She will immediately send love back.

Why this matters

Your job is to love. Period. And when you do, you have no control over whether the other person returns love, hate, or indifference.

Prayer

Father, help me to love. Help me to be like you. Help me to love even when I get a bad response from another person. Help me to be like Jesus. Amen.

Bible Connection

A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you… – John 13:34 (NIV)

*The reference to Mel Robbins, his book, and link should not be taken as endorsement and is not sponsored. I frequently read books from others that I think might be useful.