Growing up is hard.

Becoming spiritually and emotionally mature is a lifelong assignment. Perfection is impossible, but growth is the mission—both individually and relationally.

Some people learn 

relationship-stunting skills early in life. These behaviors are strong. They create a sense of power and control and are often used—to punish anyone who challenges us.

These skills can make you feel powerful, but in a negative way. They offer temporary control while quietly stunting relational growth.

Ask yourself:

How do you respond when you are challenged?

When failure or weakness is pointed out?

When your maturity is questioned?

Do you use any of these negative skills?

•Pouting

•Sulking

•Using the silent treatment

•Throwing a pity party

•Pushing back with sarcasm

•Hiding behind “Fine”

•Playing the victim

•Acting moody

•Overusing logic and intellectualizing to avoid feelings

If you answered yes, take these steps:

1.Pray for wisdom.

2.Confess what you do—honestly and without excuses.

3.Ask your spouse or a trusted friend to hold you accountable.

Closing:

Start today. Learn, grow, and practice new responses.

Pay special attention to how you respond when weakness is exposed and fear begins to rise.

Prayer:

Father, thank You for giving me eyes to see and ears to hear.

I humble myself before You as I examine my life and my behaviors.

Forgive me. Help me respond like Jesus. Amen.

Scripture:

“When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom.”

Proverbs 11:2 (NIV)