What if a trained, experienced, 40-year, DETACHER asked, “How do I become an ATTACHER?” What are the steps?

Here is the big simple answer. Phase One includes six steps. And those steps must be practiced for 90 days.

Step One- Pray this prayer.

Holy Spirit inside me, I need your help. I want my spirit and you, Holy Spirit, to work like a team. I want us to help coach, my inside scared boy part of me. That part is afraid to connect. Father, help my scared boy part find healing. Amen.

Step Two- Move to a “Neutral” position.

Stop running away, avoiding and getting irritated in emotional conversations. Stay neutral by repeating one word over and over. When you want to detach and run start repeating, Stay! Stay! Stay!
(Remember, neutral is half way to attaching.)

Step Three- Be curious again.

Growing up you started as a wide, eyed curious boy. As you grew you went into self protection mode. You stopped being curious. It’s time to return to being curious again. Curiosity allows you to stay in a story and learn. Return to the practice of being curious.

Bible Promise

Attaching is about oneness: “Therefore a man shall leave his Father and Mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” – Genesis 2:24 (ESV)

Prayer

Father, today I claim your promise. I was made to bond, attach, join, and form a sacred union with my wife. Only in you is it possible to bond physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Help me walk in this oneness promise today. In Jesus’ name.