How do you know if someone is emotionally underdeveloped? In a relationship what would you experience? What patterns would you observe? Here are some indicators.

• You would see an individual who makes poor emotional connections. He might go silent in the middle of an emotional conversation. Or he might change the topic to one he prefers.
• Some of these men like to talk. They enjoy telling stories. But the stories have little emotional content. Through all the stories you learn very little about the speaker.
• These individuals have lots of fixes for problems. And readily tell you what you should do. They love the use of logic.
• One older gentleman proudly announced, “I’ve only cried three times in my whole life.” He quietly implied sadness is too much chaos. Do everything you can to avoid that feeling.
• If you want to see an emotionally underdeveloped man’s eyes glaze over, ask this question. How are you feeling? Say, I want you to share your heart with me. Or tell him, You’re here but you’re not here.
• Anger is his only acceptable emotion. And he will use it to prove he has emotions.
• Often these individuals confuse being sexual with being emotional.

Close

These men are cut off from their own emotions. Growth means feeling the sadness they shut down long ago.

Prayer

Father, you are my spiritual and emotional leader. You know me better than I know myself. Please help me reconnect to my emotions. Amen.

Bible

Love the Lord, your God with all your heart and with all your soul with all your mind. – Matthew 22:37 (NIV)

(Love should live in every part of you.)