What is one of the most important questions to ask when you are starting a new relationship?

Here it is!

Did you come from a family that interacted and connected? Talked. Expressed. Shared. Explored. And, supported each other. Or, did you come from a family of disconnectors? Light talking. Little expressing. Avoiding. Shallow sharing. And, keeping thoughts to yourself.

Why is this question so important?

Because a relationship can only grow to the emotional, skill level of the least connected spouse. Here is another way to say it: The least emotionally mature spouse sets the emotional ceiling for the relationship.

What happened in a home where a disconnected parent set the agenda?

These are the skills that were taught: Yelling. Ignoring. Silent treatment. Pretending. Name calling. Walking away. And, dismissing.

These are great disconnecting skills. Further, they guarantee a relationship will never grow deep.

Bible Verse

When I was a child, I used to speak like a child, think like a child, reason like a child; when I became a man, I did away with childish things.

1 Cor 13:11 NASB

Prayer

Father, Son and Holy Spirit you are all very connected. Please help me practice rich, deep connecting in my relationships. Amen.