Author: Stephen Cervantes

  • Jesus is Lord of the Broken Places

    Jesus is Lord of the Broken Places

    Your growth mission is to make Jesus Lord of your broken places. That includes your unworthy place, not-good-enough place, fear and shame places etc.

  • Box of Secrets

    Box of Secrets

    Inside each individual is a Box of Secrets. The contents have accumulated over a lifetime. Only a select few individuals ever get to look inside your Box of Secrets.

  • Self-Centered

    Self-Centered

    Consider how self-centeredness is survival.

  • Do You Want a Relationship with Me?

    Do You Want a Relationship with Me?

    I get that we’re married. I get that we made a commitment. I get that we’re both good people. And, I understand staying married. But, do you want a relationship with me?

  • We The Church Value Service

    We The Church Value Service

    As followers of Christ we get to form communities and serve one another.

  • Who Will I Become from This?

    Who Will I Become from This?

    Who will I become in response to hurt and disappointment? What will I do in response?

  • Are You Good Enough?

    Are You Good Enough?

    I am in recovery. I am a recovering people pleaser. Most of my life I’ve worked really hard to please others. I thought if everyone around me was pleased that meant I was good enough.

  • The Second Skill

    The Second Skill

    This one thought has become increasingly clear to me. To be more successful in life, you just need to add the other skill. You successfully picked up the first skill in childhood. Now the question becomes will you pick up the second skill?

  • Deep Dialogues

    Deep Dialogues

    I am asked, “My wife says she wants me to join her in deep dialogues. What? That’s not me. And, I’m not her. What does that even mean, deep dialogues?” Let’s establish the difference between a Daily Dialogue and a Deep Dialogue.

  • Second-Half Maturity

    Second-Half Maturity

    Your first emotional program is your survival program. It was established in childhood. The second emotional program is built in adulthood. It will be built on top of the first program.

  • Fear of Failure

    Fear of Failure

    When my soul is not experiencing peace, rest, or joy, I know fear is at work.

  • Renew Your Mind

    Renew Your Mind

    Your life mission is to run your brain consistent with spiritual and emotional truths. Your childhood is not perfect. You picked up some confused identity, shame, guilt, unworthiness,