Author: Stephen Cervantes

  • What Detachment Looks Like

    What Detachment Looks Like

    According to attachment theory you have two types of people, attachers and detachers.

  • Why Practice Sadness?

    Why Practice Sadness?

    Men hate weakness, sadness, and feeling lost. So when someone says you need to practice sadness. There’s one common response, “No way!”

  • Stuck in Anger

    Stuck in Anger

    A question was asked, “If I am stuck in anger, how do I get unstuck?” There are two overlapping answers. There is a spiritual pathway and an emotional one that work together. This answer highlights components of the emotional pathway.

  • Why Be Kind?

    Why Be Kind?

    After listening to thousands of people tell their stories I have arrived at one simple conclusion.

  • Laughter

    Laughter

    Being positive brings smiles and laughter. I love laughing. That includes jokes, cutting-up, being silly, and just playing together. It means finding moments of joy in life.

  • When She Doesn’t Seem to Care

    When She Doesn’t Seem to Care

    Who will you be when your needs are not met? How will you handle life’s disappointments?

  • Forgive Them

    Forgive Them

    My friend’s daughter was visiting from college. They were having lunch. During the meal she made this request. “Dad, one day I want you to apologize to me.”

  • Talking Helps

    Talking Helps

    There was a meeting. At that meeting a gentleman started talking about his emotions. He said, “I talk for my mental health.”

  • Healthy Men Do

    Healthy Men Do

    God’s men are growth oriented. They strive for self awareness, own their blind spots, and pray for wisdom. They spend a lifetime working on spiritual and emotional growth.

  • Indicators of Change

    Indicators of Change

    A wife will report. My husband says he’s changing. But how do I know if he really is working on growth and change?

  • Talk to Her

    Talk to Her

    A wife calmly pleads with her husband, “Talk to me. Please talk to me.”

  • Do You Go to Church?

    Do You Go to Church?

    Then she shifted to asking this direct question, “You don’t go to church do you?”