Author: Stephen Cervantes
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50% Connected?
Are you 50% connected to your spouse? Are you 100% emotionally connected? Or, are you somewhere in between? HERE IS THE CRITERIA FOR MAKING A 50% EMOTIONAL CONNECTION WITH YOUR SPOUSE. 1 . Have a wedding ceremony. 2 . Hold a title. e.g., Husband or Wife 3 . Work outside the home as a provider.…
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Expressing Myself
I had breakfast with a friend. He reminded me that he’d struggled with anger most of his life. Then, he said. I’ve made progress. And, I’m much better at managing my anger. But, I’ve discovered a new problem. I don’t know how to express my emotions. I stumble to find my words. It’s hard to…
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Your Four Missions
There are four missions in life. MISSION NUMBER ONE – Is to pursue God, learn God and love God. You are told to (learn and) love God with all your heart, soul and mind. MISSION NUMBER TWO – Is to learn yourself. (Retrain and) set you mind on things above. (Pray for) eyes to see…
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I Am Not Good Enough!
1 . An angry, attacking friend says, “You’re not good enough!” You THINK. -Only God is really good. So, you RESPOND – “You’re right! I am not good enough” 2 . An angry, attacking friend says, “You’re not very smart!” You THINK.- Only God is very smart. So, you RESPOND – “You’re right! I am…
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Sharing Deep Dialogue
Great relationships are the result of two individuals sharing, deep dialogue. Here are some deep, dialogue, starter statements. ABOUT self- -Something good that happened today is…. -Today, I am grateful for…. -I am hopeful when…. -It makes me happy when….. -A dream I have is…. ABOUT God- -God has blessed me…. -I saw God at…
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Soul, Spirit, Etc.
What if there are always four systems at work in your life? 1 . YOUR SOUL- is a puzzle, picture of all your memories and thoughts. It includes everything from restful, peaceful feelings to tormented, restless feelings. Your whole emotional system = your soul. 2 . YOUR SPIRIT- You are a spirit that lives in…
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Forgiven Younger You?
“Have you forgiven your younger self?” I’ve had two discussions this week about this topic. One man said. I spoke to my pastor about forgiving myself. He said that was psychological and not biblical. And, I should not think about that any more. A second man said, I started to think about the idea of…
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Your Second Emotional System
To work on emotional growth means you are developing a second emotional system. The FIRST System- (Survival Program) By the time you reach adulthood you have successfully developed one emotional system. That first system is your survival system. Also, called your boy program. Growing up you became a pleaser, fixer or caretaker. (To earn love)…
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The Fight is On!
Up boys! The fight is upon us. Some of us are taking hits. Sadly, we are taking friendly fire. People who are supposed to love and forgive instead are resorting to anger and name-calling. They think wounding your soul is a good thing. Further, they hope, it will awaken and punish you and empower themselves.…
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Transformational Business
What business are we in? Here are a few thoughts. It’a a wonderful fellowship of people working together. Have you noticed the best living is, going through a new life experience, (transformation) and holding Abba’s hand? Hold tight today. Insights, truths and lessons are everywhere. Transformation is happening. You are looking more like our CEO…
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Three Thoughts
Thought #1 I’m listening to some trauma experts. One says, “trauma is where you spin off a part of yourself.” She explained, you “spin off” living open and curious as a boy. After trauma, you stop expressing needs, start living closed and just survive. Thought #2 I’m reading a book written by a man who…
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Show Me
The Holy Spirit has several names. The Spirit has been called comforter, teacher, and guide. The Holy Spirit is also called counselor, helper, and advocate. The Spirit is a gift from the Heavenly Father. He was given to the disciples when Jesus was sacrificed and went back to be with the Heavenly Father. The Holy…