Author: Stephen Cervantes
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Problem Discussion
What problems hinder relationship oneness? Review the following problems and see if you can relate. Discuss with your spouse any that apply.
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Renew Your Thinking
Your thinking helps you, and drives growth in your relationship, or it hinders you, and stunts relationship growth.
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Peace, Rest, & Joy
My spirit loves three promises of Jesus. I love them so much they are my anchor verses. I want my soul to run on these emotions. They are peace, rest, and joy.
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Emotional Detachment
What if a couple were raising a son and they argued and bickered all the time. Finally they divorced. The son tried to be helpful but eventually he just withdrew inside himself. That son would probably have and use these skills as his primary skills.
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Jesus is Lord of the Broken Places
Your growth mission is to make Jesus Lord of your broken places. That includes your unworthy place, not-good-enough place, fear and shame places etc.
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Box of Secrets
Inside each individual is a Box of Secrets. The contents have accumulated over a lifetime. Only a select few individuals ever get to look inside your Box of Secrets.
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Self-Centered
Consider how self-centeredness is survival.
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Do You Want a Relationship with Me?
I get that we’re married. I get that we made a commitment. I get that we’re both good people. And, I understand staying married. But, do you want a relationship with me?
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We The Church Value Service
As followers of Christ we get to form communities and serve one another.
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Who Will I Become from This?
Who will I become in response to hurt and disappointment? What will I do in response?
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Are You Good Enough?
I am in recovery. I am a recovering people pleaser. Most of my life I’ve worked really hard to please others. I thought if everyone around me was pleased that meant I was good enough.
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The Second Skill
This one thought has become increasingly clear to me. To be more successful in life, you just need to add the other skill. You successfully picked up the first skill in childhood. Now the question becomes will you pick up the second skill?