Everyone I know has an attachment wound. That means they were poorly trained in attaching, bonding, and connecting. How do you know if you have an attachment wound?

Here’s a simple test.

• Are you often angry, negative, or sarcastic? (Those are poor attaching and connecting skills. They may point to an attachment wound.)
• Do you live behind the role of a Pleaser, Fixer, Helper, or Caretaker? (Those are roles people adopt to feel needed. They can grow out of an attachment wound.)
• Do you carry resentment toward your mom or dad? (Hurt and unresolved anger often signal an attachment wound.)
• Do you use your phone, computer, internet, or fantasy thinking excessively? (That can be an escape strategy—a replacement for deep connection.)
• Do you use alcohol, drugs, or other substances to relax from relationship distress? (That may be another way of avoiding emotional attachment.)
• Do you rely on logic to get through emotional moments? Do you view emotions and emotional language as inferior? (This can be another way people protect themselves from attachment pain.)

So what is the problem with an unhealed attachment wound? It often hinders emotional closeness. It creates distance, defensiveness, or withdrawal in relationships.

Close:

Attachment wounds hinder emotional closeness. And you can’t fix a problem if you don’t name it.

Prayer:

Father, please help me heal my attachment wound. Teach me to grow in connection and oneness with You and others. Bless me. Amen.

Scripture:

(Example of spiritual attachment and oneness)

“I pray for them all to be joined together as one, even as you and I, Father, are joined together as one. I pray for them to become one with us so that the world will recognize that you sent me.”

Jn. 17:21. TPT