How do you know if you are living detached? If you want to know, just listen. Family, friends, and people close to you will make these comments. And, they will ask these questions. You might also go back over the years and ask yourself how many times have you been in an awkward conversation because of one of these comments.

I don’t know you!
Why are you so private?
You’re hard to get to know.

You talk and tell great stories.
You joke and laugh but you’re still a mystery.
Do you know you do a lot of shallow talking?

When I ask you, about you, you say very little.
You can talk a lot. But, not about your hopes, dreams, and fears.

You seem to get “set off” easily. I talk about me-struggling or you-struggling and you get irritated. Stories hold your interest but emotions make you glaze over.

You can talk easily to strangers. But, to those closest to you, you say little. I want to hear your heart. And, I want you to hear mine.

If, I’m honest, I’m a little scared. I want to have deep emotional conversations with you. But, every time I try you get weird, uncomfortable, and awkward, so I stop.

Close

Emotions and emotional talking is critical to connecting. Wounded, scared people live detached. Detached people are weary and burdened and so are their spouses.

Bible Connection

Come to me, all of you who are weary and over-burdened, and I will give you rest! Put on my yoke and learn from me. For I am gentle and humble in heart and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.

Matthew 11:28-30 (PHILLIPS)

Prayer

Father, please speak through this little post. Help us enter your healing presence. Help us connect better to you and those around us. Amen.