Dear Husband,
My dream for our marriage has always been one deep and lasting connection. I don’t need small talk—I can get that anywhere. What I long for is a safe place with you where we share our hearts, where we are truly known by one another.

Since childhood I’ve carried this dream. I didn’t see it modeled at home, but I found it in books, on the radio, in poetry, and even in simple words on a bumper sticker. As a young woman, the thing that melted me most was a man who wanted to truly know me.

But today when I open up, I feel you pull away. When I share my emotions, I see you shut down. Please understand—when I talk, I’m not just filling space. I’m learning myself, discovering my heart, and I want you to walk through that journey with me.

I know you didn’t have good role models. I know you were taught to keep emotions hidden. But this is a new day. This is our marriage. And God calls us to oneness.

For us to grow, two things are needed. First, sadness—sadness for the pain you carried then and for the distance it still creates now. Second, growth—a willingness to let God heal what’s hidden, to set you free, to bless me, and to build a marriage filled with life and connection.

This letter is written out of love. It would be easier to withdraw or give up. But I’m choosing instead to fight—for God’s will, for you, for me, and for us.

My spirit to your spirit. In Jesus’ name. I love you.

Scripture
“…and the two shall become one.” (Ephesians 5:31, ESV)