A Message to Husbands Under 35
From men who have already lived it

Several men over 70 sat together remembering their younger years.
Someone asked, “What would you tell your younger self if you could go back?”

After a long pause, one of them said,
“Don’t be stupid.”

After some laughter, they shared their youthful thinking.

“I fought over little things that didn’t really matter.”
“I demanded my way when her way would have worked just as well.”
“I assumed my way was the right way.”
“I saw myself as knowing better.”
“I acted like I was the expert and final authority.”
“I believed my perspective was the only correct one.”
“I didn’t want to change.”
“She was wrong and that was the end of the discussion.”

We weren’t leading. We were insisting.
And at times, our demands quietly crushed the spirit of the woman we loved.

Insisting that your way is always better is not leadership. It’s immaturity.

That’s why we say to young husbands,

Don’t be stupid.

Grow up before regret teaches you what humility could have taught you earlier.

Wisdom is remembering we are a team.

Prayer:

Father, please bless the young married men—and the older ones too. Help us continue to grow in wisdom, insight, and behavior. Bless us. We are yours. Amen

Scripture:

“Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.”

James 1:19 NIV